A Lesson From Betty Suarez

Sometimes, when we want something really bad, we forget that there are other people involved. We just get stuck in our own little world and it doesn't matter what other people feel... except that it DOES matter.

I just finished watching Ugly Betty season 3, episode 4 and I'm waiting for episode 5 to load properly so I decided to share what I just learned from Betty Suarez.

She's right. That statement from her above is so true. We always want something. That's human nature. It's not bad. It only makes us strive even harder to get that something. It makes us stronger, it makes us more determined. We learn to fight, we learn to wait, to hope. All these good things it can bring to us.

But bad things it can bring to other people? Along the way of working so hard just to get that thing that we desire the most, some people are hurt. Maybe we know that, but we just tend to, intentionally or not, not care.

Like when loving someone so much. When you lose someone you really love, you do everything just to make him/her come back. You do all the crazy and evil stuff you didn't even think you could actually do. You just do EVERYTHING. Unknowingly (or knowingly), there are people that are hurt with your desire to be happy. Of course it's not bad to fight for your happiness. But how about fairness?

I've been so much hurt because some people are happy with what and who they have. And I have hurt people because I also wanted to be happy, to stop the hurting. I was really selfish. I'm sure we all are at some point. But at the end of the day, it's always best to do what's right. It will surely hurt you for a while. But after sometime, you'll realize that it's such a relief to let go of everything that's been hurting you and other people. Maybe it wasn't just really for you. Maybe it was not just your REAL happiness. You just thought that it was.

Somewhere along your way, you'll find what really makes you happy. And if this really makes you happy, you'll enjoy every single pain that it will bring you.Remember life's not all about laughter. It's a package--pain and sorrow come with it.

xoxo

thoughts about letting go of someone

Isn't it sad that in our lives, we're sometimes forced to say goodbye to the person we love and care about the most for there are reasons we're powerless to explain? Because no matter how we try to save the good old times and salvage the little feelings we have left, all ends just refuse to meet. And the only right thing to do is to break away and let go, to show your beloved just how much pain you are willing to take just to make him/her so damn happy.

If you know in your heart that you can never be someone's happiness, all you have to do is to pretend that you're okay until you understand God's point that you are destined to be the happiness of someone else who's BETTER. Don't let go too soon, but don't hang on too long. Of course, it's not wrong to miss the person you had before, it's just a proof that you're a good person in a way that you still care for him/her even if THEY LEFT YOU HANGING.

Oprah once said, "Leaving a love you've suddenly outgrown can be heartbreaking, but it also shows you're strong enough to walk away from a relationship that no longer makes you happy. Movin' out of your comfort zone can be downright scary but it also proves just how brave you are to take on the unknown. Stronger, braver, wiser. You always do a little GROWING UP everytime you do a little LETTING GO."

xoxo